Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing your experience with us. I learned a lot from your words.
As a “good man” and father who does everything I can for my 11-year-old daughter, I’m curious if there’s anything I can do to help my daughter understand these feelings at 13-14 rather than 30-40? It’s almost as if my efforts to be present, loving, positive and forward-thinking will naturally make her curious about how the other half lives. Are there things that you had or didn’t have that pushed you to bad boys or maybe would have helped you avoid them?
Thank you for sharing, Darnell. As I mentioned, I was rebelling against my parents' expectations. I had pretty strict parents who constantly told me what I should and shouldn't do, which ultimately turned me into a rebellious teen who found these boys attractive. Although I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a father of a young girl, I believe that teaching her self love and her worth, while also being an example of a good man, is the best thing you can do.
much of our life reflects our inner world. what you see and believe as real is always through a particular lens. i also used to be addicted to the rush of a broken person not trying to be any better. like you said, it’s easy. they allow you to be perfectly mediocre, if not terrible. you don’t have to face the self. anything for love, yea - but never the painful realization of self-loathing and the drive to be better.
Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing your experience with us. I learned a lot from your words.
As a “good man” and father who does everything I can for my 11-year-old daughter, I’m curious if there’s anything I can do to help my daughter understand these feelings at 13-14 rather than 30-40? It’s almost as if my efforts to be present, loving, positive and forward-thinking will naturally make her curious about how the other half lives. Are there things that you had or didn’t have that pushed you to bad boys or maybe would have helped you avoid them?
Again, great read. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing, Darnell. As I mentioned, I was rebelling against my parents' expectations. I had pretty strict parents who constantly told me what I should and shouldn't do, which ultimately turned me into a rebellious teen who found these boys attractive. Although I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a father of a young girl, I believe that teaching her self love and her worth, while also being an example of a good man, is the best thing you can do.
Thank you for that! The era we’re living in makes it more difficult than ever to instill good values. We do the best we can.
I can imagine🥺! You can always only do the best you can!!
much of our life reflects our inner world. what you see and believe as real is always through a particular lens. i also used to be addicted to the rush of a broken person not trying to be any better. like you said, it’s easy. they allow you to be perfectly mediocre, if not terrible. you don’t have to face the self. anything for love, yea - but never the painful realization of self-loathing and the drive to be better.